For betrayed partners, individuals and couples
Betrayal Trauma and Sex Addiction Therapy
An affair, hidden porn use or a secret sexual life can turn your world upside down. Whether you were betrayed or you are the one struggling, you don't have to do this alone.
Does Any of This Sound Familiar?
You found something you were never supposed to find, and now you can't stop replaying it. You check your partner's phone at night and hate yourself for it. You don't know what's true anymore, or who you could even tell. Or you're on the other side. You have promised to stop more times than you can count, and the shame gets louder every time. You love your family. You're scared of what happens if anyone finds out. If any of this is you, that's reason enough to reach out.
Who This Is For
This work is for anyone whose relationship has been shaken by sexual secrets or broken trust.
- Betrayed partners. You're not overreacting. The shock, the anger and the constant checking are normal responses to a real injury, and they deserve care of their own.
- People struggling with sexual behavior. Porn, affairs or other sexual behavior you keep going back to, even though you want to stop. Shame hasn't worked. We look at what drives it, without judgment.
- Couples rebuilding trust. You both want to know if this can be repaired, and how. We help you rebuild honesty and safety one step at a time.
How this works
How Betrayal Trauma Therapy Works Here
No vague talk. You get a specific plan for the pain in front of you, and then we go after the root.
First, the Pain in Front of You
Right after a discovery, life can feel like it's on fire. We start with a specific plan for this week: how to sleep, what to say and not say, and what, if anything, to tell the kids.
Then, the Root
Once things are steadier, we address what is underneath: the shame, the old wounds and the patterns that keep the behavior going or make trust so hard.
Then, Rebuilding
If you both choose to, we rebuild trust step by step: honesty, safety and what closeness can look like again.
Sessions can be individual, as a couple, or both. For some people, an intensive is a good way to start: several focused hours in one block. Ask us about it. It isn't always easy. Healing is possible.
Who You'll Work With
Brannon Patrick has spent 20 years helping people through betrayal and sexual addiction and is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT). Holly Voisin works with sex addiction, betrayal trauma and couples.
Tell Us What Is Going On
If you are not sure what you need yet, that is fine. We will help you figure out the next step.
It is the shock and pain after finding out a partner has hidden an affair, porn use or other sexual behavior. Many people feel on edge, can't sleep, replay details and stop trusting their own judgment. That is a normal response to a real injury, and therapy can help.
People use different words for it: sex addiction, porn addiction, compulsive sexual behavior. The label matters less than this: the behavior keeps hurting you or the people you love, and you haven't been able to stop on your own. That is where we start.
You don't need therapy because you did something wrong. You deserve support because you were hurt. Working on your own healing also gives you steadier footing for every decision ahead, whether you stay or not.
You can start on your own. The partner who was hurt deserves support either way, and so does the partner who is struggling. Some partners join later, once they see the work is fair.
Often both, in stages. Many couples start with individual work so each partner has support, then add couples sessions once there is enough safety. We help you decide what makes sense for you.
Yes. Many of the people we see come from faith communities, and some carry a lot of shame about sex because of what they were taught. Your faith is welcome here, and so are your questions about it.
Confidentiality means what you share in therapy stays private. It is the foundation that lets people speak openly. Your therapist follows privacy laws and professional ethics to protect your information. There are a few specific exceptions, mainly around safety, which your therapist will explain clearly at the start.